Why Can’t I Stop Checking After My Partner Cheated?

After betrayal, checking can become an attempt to prevent yourself from being blindsided again.

You may check a phone, location, credit-card statement, social-media account, browser history, or repeatedly ask questions.

Part of you may be thinking:

If I can find everything, maybe I can finally feel safe.

The problem is that checking rarely creates lasting safety. It may provide temporary relief, followed by another wave of uncertainty.

Therapy can help you understand the fear underneath the checking behavior and begin developing a sense of safety that doesn't require you to remain on constant alert.

Reach out to schedule a session to discuss more!